Overcoming Shortcomings

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Lands’ End Fisherman Sweater, Scarf and Booties c/o (Order the sweater one size up for a cozier fit; the booties are SO comfy! I’ve been wearing them every day!) / Daniel Wellington Watch c/o / Madewell Tote / Hudson Jeans (Ridiculously old, and can only wear them with long sweaters, as there’s a rip down the butt, haha! Newer styles here.) / Kate Spade Sunglasses (Old, similar here and here) and Earrings (Newer style here)

One of my biggest shortcomings is how easily I become overwhelmed and upset. Which is weird, considering I’ve always been drawn to such stressful professions. But I think only now am I starting to realize that I don’t handle pressure very well. Some people thrive under it, and create masterpieces and great change under the circumstances. Me, though? I can withstand a good amount, but then tend to operate under a cloud of doom. Everything seems crappy, and it’s ridiculously difficult to bring myself out of it.

(It usually takes calling it a day and going to bed, haha.)

The crazy part is that I normally don’t see it coming. Despite how many times it’s occurred, I always seem to think to myself, “Wow! Look at me. I’m totally killing it right now.” And then?

Crash.

(Which is exactly what happened right after we snapped these photos the other day. Feeling great, enjoying a stroll along the water, and then all of a sudden: “Oh my goodness. I have WAY too much going on right now.”)

In the Bronx, Mitch and I used to promise ourselves mental health days at least every couple of months. Days during which we did nothing — maybe wandered around New York, or just sat on the couch and mindlessly watched television. And it was so helpful. A “hard reset” for the mind, if you will.

Of course, my “job” in Chicago is a joke compared to what I did back home. Stress? Please. But is it fair to always compare my current situation to what I experienced in the Bronx? Probably not. And maybe a hard reset is necessary no matter what, because jobs aren’t the only things that weigh on us. (Sometimes it’s just a lot of nonsense! Or a lack of free time, or an over scheduling problem!)

So despite the fact that there’s nothing earth shatteringly wrong right now, I’m going to take a “hard reset day” on Thursday. I’m going to spend the morning watching television and playing the guitar, and I’m going to spend the afternoon wandering the neighborhood and writing (for myself) in a coffee shop. And I’m going to consider how to avoid getting like this in the first place.

Any tips? :)

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  • Preeti

    LOVE those booties! everyone needs a reset day! try taking a bath with lavender oil or making a date with a friend who always makes you laugh! volunteering is a great option, too. no better way to give you perspective!! enjoy your day off!

    xoxo, Preeti
    http://www.ninesto5.com

    • Preeti,

      Thank you so much for this. This was such a nice message — and it totally helped put things in perspective!

      xoxo. You’re the best, Girl.

  • Sara Mendoza

    I love a good “MHD” and usually take one from work about every 4 months. I let things get to me as well and I worry, worry, worry! I see a therapist and she has been a gift from God, she has really helped me to try and ‘live in the moment’ so that is my mantra but I admit it’s hard with working, juggling kids, homework (I forgot how hard math is, ha!) and just everyday life. But, then I realize there are those in the world that have far, far less than I and I straighten up and go about my day. I try and replay the Dave Matthews song in my head “Because life is short, but sweet for certain”…..

    • First of all, love that you referenced DMB, because that’s always how that song made me feel. :)

      Also — I can’t tell you how much I appreciated your honestly in this message. It’s crazy how alone we can feel during times like these, but the truth is that so many of us are battling such similar battles.

      Thank you, Sara!

  • Sara Mendoza

    Oh and love the booties!!!!! I have ordered several jewelry items that you post and just ordered the “London” print w/frame on Minted, love your site!!!

  • Alyssa Thomas

    Love love those booties!

    Alyssa | Glitter and Grey

  • Daniellem02

    Love your outfit–glad you told me Lands End has fixed their sizing. My mom, however, will be devastated, as she loves ordering a small hahaha. I agree that either volunteering or time with a friend always does it for me. Also, a technology free day with a book.

    • Haha!

      Yes… I think they fixed it. Granted, I like my tops and sweaters a bit big… but I think they’ve done away with a lot of their vanity sizes!

      And thank you so much for the tips. So sweet of you!!!

      xx

  • Really loving that fisherman sweater, would you say the arms are pretty long? My only fear is the arms won’t be long enough since I’m so tall! Beautiful pictures, and enjoy your breather day on Thursday, it’s so easy to get overwhelmed! Taking breaks is important!

    Laura

    http://www.lauraaimevous.com

  • Meagan

    Hang in there girl! I take a nice hot bath three times a week with lavender bath salts. I light a zillion candles and watch a show on my iPad. It really helps me unwind.
    -Meg
    http://www.smalltownsisters.blogspot.com

    • Hot bath, candles and … wine? Is that okay?

      You’re the sweetest.

  • I think a reset day is good for anyone, especially during times of stress! But a good habit to get into no matter what. My hubby and I used to try to do that one day a weekend at least once a month. But lately we’ve seemed to be skipping it – until last week. And it was great! Scheduling those days ahead of time always helps me too – helps to have something to look forward to and know there is a break coming up no matter how much is going on.

    • “Hard reset days.”

      I like that. :)

      And I totally agree. Those weekends are the best — just hard to “schedule.”

      XOXO

  • Michelle

    Mental health always comes first and I applaud you for recognizing that you need a day to yourself. I have to do this all the time and now am realizing the signs of my breakdowns. I hope you are able to completely de-stress on Thursday and feel fully restored afterwards!

    xo – Michelle
    http://www.borncreativeblog.com

    • Thank you, Michelle! I need to cool it with the breakdowns. Everything I freak out about is NOT important. You know?!

  • My tips probably won’t work for you, but I disconnect from work stuff when I walk through the front door at night and don’t log in again until I get to work the next morning.

  • I do days of not leaving the home, just staying in watching series or even cleaning or reading my favourite blogs (like yours!). I usually try to make Sundays like this. Maybe I will go out for dinner with my boyfriend in the evening, or take a walk if the weather is nice (and snap some blog photos!). However, the most relaxing days are the ones I don’t leave my apartment haha.

    • The watching TV thing is SO helpful. I almost never do it, but when I do, I feel SO much more relaxed the following day. It’s a complete escape from everything on the mind, you know?!

      And thank you — that was SO kind! I appreciate it!!

      XOXO, Lindsay!

  • I am the same way. I feel like I am fine then it seems like everything all piles up at once and I am buried. Every person is different but for me, being with dogs helps. They help pull me back to reality and not feel as overwhelmed.

  • Alex Thornton

    I’m sorry you’re stressed – take a day for yourself and do what you enjoy!

    P.S. love the booties!